I’ll be honest—I didn’t expect to learn anything about management while watching a thriller about wealthy people on a Greek island. But here I am, three episodes deep into Netflix’s Sirens, and I can’t stop thinking about my last team meeting.

If you haven’t seen it yet, Sirens follows the story of Simone, a young woman who gets swept into the orbit of Michaela Kell, a billionaire socialite who’s built her own little kingdom on a remote island. What starts as a glamorous escape quickly becomes something much more unsettling—a psychological power play disguised as friendship, mentorship, and luxury brunches.

The show is addictive television, but it’s also accidentally brilliant commentary on toxic leadership. And honestly? It made me realize I’ve worked for a few Michaelas in my career.

The Charisma Trap

Michaela is magnetic. She walks into a room and everyone turns toward her like sunflowers following light. She’s brilliant, articulate, and has this way of making you feel like you’re the only person in the world when she’s talking to you.

Sound familiar? We’ve all encountered leaders like this—people who can command attention and inspire loyalty through sheer force of personality. And for a while, it works. Teams rally around charismatic leaders. Projects get done. People feel energized.

But here’s what Sirens gets right: charisma without substance is manipulation in designer clothing. Michaela uses her charm to control conversations, shut down dissent, and keep people dependent on her approval. She’s not leading—she’s performing leadership while pulling all the strings behind the scenes.

I started thinking about my own experiences with charismatic bosses. The ones who made me feel special during one-on-ones but somehow always ended up making the decisions they wanted anyway. The meetings where everyone nodded along, not because they agreed, but because disagreeing felt impossible.

Real leadership should invite challenge, not perform control. If your team always agrees with you, you’re not building consensus—you’re building compliance.

The Empowerment Illusion

One of the most chilling aspects of Michaela’s manipulation is how she frames it as empowerment. She constantly tells Simone things like “You’re ready for this” and “You’re in control now,” all while orchestrating every aspect of her life. She dresses up control as mentorship, dependency as growth.

This hit me hard because I’ve seen this play out in corporate settings more times than I can count. The manager who gives you a fancy title but no real authority. The “stretch assignment” that’s actually just extra work with no additional support. The boss who talks about giving you ownership while micromanaging every detail.

True empowerment isn’t about the language you use—it’s about the power you’re willing to give up. It means letting people make real decisions, even when you might choose differently. It means creating space for failure and growth, not just the illusion of autonomy.

The Echo Chamber Effect

What struck me most about Michaela’s inner circle is how everyone thinks, talks, and acts like her. There’s no conflict, no pushback, no fresh perspectives. Just this eerie harmony where everyone mirrors the leader’s opinions back to her.

It’s seductive to build teams of people who “just get it.” Hiring for culture fit. Surrounding yourself with people who share your vision. But Sirens shows us the dark side of this approach—when culture fit becomes groupthink, innovation dies.

The best teams I’ve been part of had respectful tension. People who challenged ideas, brought different perspectives, and weren’t afraid to say “I think we’re missing something here.” Progress happens in the friction between different viewpoints, not in the smooth agreement of identical minds.

The Power of Presence

Michaela rarely gives direct orders. She doesn’t need to. A slight change in tone, a meaningful look, a strategic pause—and people adjust their behavior without even realizing it. The show does a brilliant job of demonstrating how influence works in subtle, almost unconscious ways.

This made me reflect on my own leadership style. How often do I think I’m being clear and direct when I’m actually communicating through subtext? How much of my team’s behavior is shaped by my moods, my energy, my offhand comments?

Culture isn’t built through mission statements or all-hands meetings. It’s built in the small moments—the sigh during a presentation, the tone of an email, the way you respond when someone brings you bad news. Your presence sets the emotional temperature of every room you enter.

The Rescue Complex

Devon, Simone’s sister, arrives on the island determined to save her. She’s smart, well-intentioned, and completely wrong about what Simone wants. Simone doesn’t want saving—she wants what Michaela offers, even if it’s ultimately unhealthy.

This dynamic shows up constantly in leadership. The manager who swoops in to fix problems without understanding what their team actually needs. The leader who assumes they know what’s best for someone’s career without asking. The boss who treats every challenge as a crisis that requires their intervention.

Support isn’t about control. It’s about respecting people’s agency and choices, even when you disagree with them. Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is step back and let people find their own way.

Why People Stay

One of the most psychologically complex aspects of Sirens is understanding why Simone chooses to stay in Michaela’s world. It’s not just about the money or the lifestyle—it’s about identity, belonging, and validation. Michaela offers her a sense of purpose and importance that she can’t find anywhere else.

This resonated with me because I’ve watched talented people stay in toxic jobs for complex reasons that had nothing to do with compensation. The sense of being needed. The fear of starting over. The identity tied up in the role. The validation that comes from being part of something exclusive.

As leaders, we need to recognize that people aren’t purely rational economic actors. Culture, purpose, safety, ego—these matter as much as salary or promotion opportunities. Don’t assume that retention equals happiness. Ask real questions. “Is this role still serving you?” goes a long way.

What Good Leadership Actually Looks Like

Sirens is ultimately a cautionary tale about what happens when influence becomes manipulation, when culture becomes cult, and when leadership loses sight of humanity. But it also clarifies what good leadership should be.

Great leadership isn’t about control or charisma. It’s about humility—the willingness to admit when you’re wrong and learn from others. It’s about trust—giving people real autonomy and standing behind them when they make mistakes. It’s about having the courage to let others grow without needing to orchestrate every outcome.

It’s about creating environments where people can do their best work, not where they perform their loyalty to you.

The Mirror Effect

I didn’t expect a Netflix thriller to make me examine my own leadership blind spots, but here we are. Sirens works as entertainment because it shows us recognizable human dynamics played out in extreme circumstances. The psychological manipulation, the power games, the way people rationalize staying in unhealthy situations—it’s all uncomfortably familiar.

The question isn’t whether we’ll encounter toxic leadership in our careers. The question is whether we’ll recognize it when we do, and whether we’ll avoid perpetuating it when we’re in positions of power.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I have some serious thinking to do about my next team meeting. And I’m definitely never trusting anyone who serves oysters at brunch again.